Top Qualities to Look for in a Long-term Motivated to Marry™ Partner (Part 2)

Continuing the topic of “Top Qualities to Look for in a Long-term Motivated to Marry™ Partner”, you’ve all ready learned the importance of finding someone who offers you genuine friendship and who is kind and compassionate. Given relationship issues, see these three additional qualities to look for in a potential Motivated to Marry™ Partner :

3. Encouraging and Supportive
Our hope is that our partner becomes our greatest fan. Some dating tips for men include that you cheer her on during difficult times, and don’t forget to tell her you believe in her. She supports you by taking care of the kids at night while you go back to school.

4. A Sense of Being Understood
Being seen and being known is the biggest gift you can give someone. Actually hearing them and acknowledging that you’ve heard them is very powerful. The key relationship issue is acceptance of who we are is what we all strive for.

5. Being Appreciative
The ability to recognize when someone has gone out of your way or done something nice for you is a lost art. Just saying these simple words, “I appreciate what you have done” just makes someone’s day. One can never express too much appreciation! This is also important dating advice for women.

By being attentive in searching for these qualities in your potential Motivated to Marry™ Partner, you will be able to save yourself time and possible heartache by eliminating those who don’t match up with these important characteristics you need for relationship longevity.

~ Amy ~

Building More Trust In Your Relationship or Marriage

One of the biggest relationship "disconnectors" that keep people separated is mistrust.

In our experience, one of the big reasons for mistrust in relationships is because there is resistance of one kind or another from past experiences and beliefs.

In most cases, when there is even a hint of mistrust present, there is resistance that develops within you that keeps you from opening and allowing the other person to fully come in to your heart. This resistance can be from faulty beliefs, past experiences and not based on "truth" unless there are some behaviors that are currently happening to cause the mistrust.

If there are blatant agreements that have been broken, like infidelity, the relationship or marriage can certainly be healed and trust rebuilt. In order to do this, it usually takes a big
commitment and actions in alignment with this commitment on the part of both people to build or rebuild the trust in the relationship.

This is a big topic and almost everyone can learn from the kind of things that we're talking about here because almost everyone has challenges at one time or another with opening their heart to their partner.

It doesn't take infidelity or affairs to close your heart to the other person. In fact, it can be something as simple as your partner looking at you (or someone else) in a certain way that reminds you of past experiences and you getting upset or offended by that look.

To illustrate how easily mistrust and closing to your partner can create disconnection and separation, we'll tell you a story from our lives...

During the past few months, we've been remodeling and "sprucing up" our 130 year old house to get it ready to sell. We've certainly heard the stories of the challenges that many couples face who have attempted the job of remodeling or building a house together.

What has happened is that every possible issue and difference that has been between us came up and was magnified in the process of doing the things to get this house ready for sale.

While we weren't overtly angry or upset and still had our loving connection with each other, there was a vague feeling of uneasiness between us.

We hadn't really identified those issues and differences as creating mistrust between us but they had.

Here are a few ways that we created disconnection and mistrust in this process...

1. We made big assumptions that were half-truths or had no truth to them about each other.

2. We didn't communicate our thoughts about this project and the faulty beliefs about what we thought the other was thinking as clearly as we could have.

3. We did not create conscious agreements about how we were going to proceed with the project before we started.

4. We didn't truly understand each other through our differences of perception.

So today, we opened our hearts to each other and truly listened to what the other person was saying and feeling about our remodeling project. In that listening, we started to understand each other better and to reach agreements that would carry us through to the sale of our house.

Here are some things that we re-learned about rebuilding trust from this situation...

1. Recognize when you are closing your heart to your beloved by making assumptions, relying on faulty beliefs or past experiences.

While it is usually useful to learn from your past experiences, they also can get in the way of you living in the present moment--especially if those past experiences were with a different partner.

2. Explore your differences with an open heart, without judging and listen to understand.

We have had to really listen to what we each want and explore how we can satisfy each of
our desires--without making the other person wrong.

3. Create conscious agreements and conscious understandings.

You might ask yourselves questions like these...

-What steps do we agree to take to get to where we want to be?

-Who will be responsible for each of those steps?

-When do we want these steps to happen or be accomplished?

When we finally opened ourselves to taking a look at where we had made assumptions about
each other and had closed our hearts to one another, we were able to clearly outline a plan for our remodeling and how we were going to carry it through.

We know that trust can be lost in very small ways that add up over time. We also know that rebuilding trust is a choice that we make every day and in every moment in order to have and enjoy our close, connected, alive relationship.

We invite you to explore how bits of mistrust may be sitting in your heart and separating you
from your beloved. We invite you to take the steps in every moment to regain that trust.

~Susie and Otto~

Top Qualities to Look for in a Long-term Motivated to Marry™ Partner

Part 1

Do you know what kind of person would make you happy? What qualities would you want someone you would want to marry have? As human beings, we all respond to certain gestures and behaviors positively. This dating advice for women and men are to describe which qualities you need to have on your radar screen when you are searching for a partner with whom you can have long term bliss. Keep in mind the following relationship issues as you evaluate someone as a Motivated to Marry™ Partner.

1. Offers you genuine friendship
Everyone wants someone who can be their best friend through thick and thin. We want someone with whom we can share our deepest thoughts as well as with whom we can have fun with.

2. Kindness and Compassion
What kind of heart does he or she have? Does he take in stray animals or does she volunteer to help the sick? And how forgiving is his or her nature? Is she kind to you and empathize with you when you’ve had a bad day?

Think about these qualities and if you have them in your current relationship or if they are important for you to have in your next relationship.