Challenge: Your Relationships! (Part 2)

So you say you don’t have a romantic relationship at this time?

What would it take for you to find that relationship?

What are you doing to meet people to date?

My challenge to you is to carve out 5 hours a week and devote that time to getting out and meeting new people.

Perhaps you will meet someone of interest to date.

How do you plan on doing that?

First pick 2 evenings a week to go out to places where you will meet people of interest to you.

What events are in your area? You can go online and search for activities that you would enjoy and have common interests with people.

Do you enjoy art and culture? Perhaps an area museum has a lecture or and event at their local.

Do you enjoy being physically active?

What can you do that is out of the box for you?

How about taking an improvisational class? You are sure to meet some fun and interesting people there!

Try and go to one event or activity that you wouldn’t normally go to.

The key is to get out and meet new people. Trust that you will attract people who will resonate with you. And, last just have fun!

~Amy~

Challenge: Your Relationships! (Part 1)

- How about pumping up your significant relationship this week?

- What would you have to do to turn up the volume a notch or two?

Relationships take focus and attention.

For some, it’s making time to focus on the person and what really gets them going. When is the last time you brought them a surprise for no good reason?

I love it when my husband brings me home flowers or some fun gift under no obligation. Sometimes, I see a piece of clothing that would look good on him, or a fun romantic nick knack that just shows him I’m thinking of him.

What about a sexy email at work telling your partner you are thinking of him? Sometimes I leave a fun card in his briefcase so he will find it at work. The key is to build anticipation so you are both excited about the prospects for that evening.

I challenge you to come up with your own surprises for your romantic partner – how can you make your relationship even hotter this week?

~Amy~

Improve your Dating Experiences (Part 4)

4. Be the most attractive you!

Continuing on the topic of 5 Ways to Improve Your Dating Experiences, last week, we discussed being selective in who you choose to date. Today, we’ll pick up with your image. Your image matters. According to my research, sloppiness and poor grooming are the top dating turnoffs. Therefore, it is important to make yourself the most attractive person that you can. No matter what you have to work with, one may be able improve with regards to hair, grooming, clothes and weight. Actually, several of my heavy girlfriends have gotten married. They are able to carry their weight very well, have beautiful faces and dress to make the most of their shape. Here are my suggestions:

• Exercise and workout several times a week. Use a trainer if you need discipline or find a workout buddy.
• If weight is an issue for you, then find a diet or a diet program that is easy for you to stick to. You may want to consult a nutritionist.
• Get a makeover! Hair and makeup for women and hair and grooming for men. Find your own Fab-Five!
• Have your wardrobe reviewed by a friend with good taste or a wardrobe consultant. Women, you don’t want to look too frumpy or too trampy. Strive for simple elegance. Remember, a man wants someone they feel comfortable bringing home to meet Mom. Men, you just need to look neat, be well-groomed and dressed in something nicer than a rumpled tee-shirt and jeans!

5. Keep your relationship expectations realistic!

Nothing will scare someone off faster than to start talking about weddings and family stuff too soon! However, don’t be afraid to communicate what you are looking for in generalities. For instance you may say, “I’m looking for a relationship that will lead to marriage.” If that statement scares away your date, then, so be it! The right person will say, “I want this for myself too and I am looking forward to getting to know you better”. The only expectation placed on the relationship is the one of getting to know one another better.

It’s better to have a pleasant surprise of everything working out than to be disappointed by out of proportion expectations.

If you implement these five steps that I described over the last month, you will see an improvement in your dating experience. At least, you will be pointing yourself in the right direction. Remember, no matter how frustrating dating may seem, it is important to keep a positive attitude about both yourself and dating.

Happy dating!

~ Amy ~

Improve your Dating Experience - Part 3

Day 3:

3. Choose wisely the people you date

Continuing the topic of "5 Ways to Improve Your Dating Experiences", based upon the above knowledge you have gained about your value, life goals, needs and wants, it best serves you to decide carefully to choose with whom you spend your time. It is also important to be open to date people who seem like they would be a good match who may not totally "wow" you at first. Some relationships are like smoldering fires and they grow hotter and brighter with time. In contrast, those relationships that are like bonfires at first, may be based on lust and don't usually last very long.

Actually, there have been studies that have shown that women on their first date with a guy/girl may not have been crazy about their dates, but for some reason decided to give the guy/girl a second chance. Many of these women/men did actually marry the guy/girl!

Do pay attention to your internal warning signal or your whacko alarm! If something doesn't seem right when talking to the person over the phone, or by your email interactions, then don't pursue it. Your instincts are usually on target.

When you meet someone where your values mesh, then there is a feeling of familiarity. It feels comfortable and you find that you understand each other well. Then add on the same life goals, and shazam! The relationship will just click. It's that simple. Don't waste your time with cute, but inappropriate people unless your time is of little value to you. Choose your dates wisely, and you will have a more enjoyable and hopefully successful dating experience.

~Amy~