5 Ways to ba a strategic Dater (Part 3)

As we continue to learn Five Ways To Be A Strategic Dater, today, we'll find out about an important time-saving tip. Perhaps all has gone well in your search to find someone you'd like to meet, and now you're ready to take that next step and contact him or her. Below is yet another way you can become a strategic dater:

3. Be conscious of your time and use it wisely.

• Don't date people who don't share your values and life goals. Also, be careful not to date people you think are good for you but you are really not attracted to. That never works out in the end and essentially causes negative relationship issues. I have a client who is dating someone who he already knows doesn't share his goal of getting remarried. He enjoys her company and he feels that it is better than being alone. He could be spending his time finding someone who wants the same things in life that he does instead of marking time.

• When searching the online dating websites, only meet people who you have screened for their values and life goals. Make sure you talk on the phone a couple of times before agreeing to meet them. One client was anxious to meet them and "get it over with". She missed the screening process that the phone affords. So she had several bad dates with guys who couldn't hold a conversation. Now she has better success with face to face dates since she does her due diligence on the phone.

• When you are meeting someone for the first time and especially from the internet, keep your date to an hour or two maximum. I have seen examples of these first dates going several hours and then, the guy never calls or the gal never responds to a call for another date. Don't overstay your welcome. Give the person a taste of who you are about but not the whole enchilada!

Strategically planning your dates helps you become a strategic dater, increasing your dating success.