Challenge: Your Relationships! (Part 4 - End)

Challenge: Your Relationships! (Part 4 - End)

This is your final Relationship Challenge. How are you doing so far? How have your results been? I'd like to hear from you. E-mail me at: nyman@consultant.com

For those singles: Are you using the internet to meet qualified people to date? If you are not, you are missing a great resource to meet wonderful women/men to date. The internet is great for busy people who want to pre-qualify people before they meet them.

This is your challenge:

Pick an internet dating site that resonates with you and sign up! First you will need to write up some essays and get a good picture to put up there. I suggest you focus on what you have to offer and your wonderful qualities. If you are not sure, then ask your close friends or your family members to help you.

What are you waiting for? There is no time like the present. Many of my clients have had success meeting their significant others from the internet.

Get an accountability buddy or a friend and commit to that person that you will get going with internet dating.

Good luck with this challenge- this will definitely remodel your reality- there are plenty of good people to meet and date!

~Amy~

Some tips:

1. Present the most authentic you!

Show your potential dates the real you. If you put down stuff that you are not, you will attract the wrong people and eventually it will come out. For example, if you can't stand cats and say you like animals, then what will you do if your date has a cat? My philosophy is what you put out there is what you will attract. Just like an ad in a magazine- if a company advertises a car with a powerful engine, it will attract people who want that in a car.

So it is best to be honest and upfront with your profile. Describe what you need and want in a relationship. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want (as long as it is socially appropriate!). If you want marriage and a family - then put that down in your profile. You will attract those who want the same things as you and turn away those who would be scared by that comment-that's a good thing!

2. Tell your audience what's unique about you!

What sets you apart from the next guy or gal? What is special about you? Do you have any special talents? You want someone who appreciates that about you. If you have an artistic bent, or you sing in a chorus, describe that! If you run marathons or help out with volunteer activities, put that down. This will set you apart from all the other internet profiles out there.

3. Take your reader into your experiences with you!

I believe in bringing the reader into the experiences that you truly value. Not just superficially mention you like running through the park, but send out an invitation for them to join you. For instance, one of my clients described how he loves to jog in a city park in the fall when the air is crisp and the leaves are multi-tonal. Doesn't this description have a "come join me" feeling?

Don't just mention that you like concerts and movies. Describe what kind of concerts you prefer and types of movies you love.

Describe what's truly important to you!

What gets you up in the morning? What truly motivates you in life? One of my clients truly values giving of herself to the community. She is an avid volunteer. I'm sure she wants to attract someone who also values giving to the community as well. When you get beyond the superficial, you will attract those who say, "this person seems to be the kind of person I want to meet!"

4. Invest in hiring a professional for the all important photo!

We do live in a visual society and we do judge a book by a cover! Studies have shown that the photo is the key to whether a person decides to check out your profile or not. If you are not sure how you come across in the photo, then ask a friend or co-worker for their opinion. I request my clients to get a professional photo 95% of the time. And make sure the photo is a current one of you, within a year or two!